Please, Talk About Your Work Online Already

"STOP FUCKING HOARDING THAT SHIT.”
- Me

A client and friend of mine told me yesterday that this is the single most useful piece of advice I've ever given her.

This woman is luminous and on fire with the work she does — it's mission-driven and then some. Her creativity oozes out of every pore, as does her deep, unrelenting commitment to helping her neighbors heal and thrive.

And yet she cannot bring herself to talk about her work online.

She freezes.

She's not alone.

I have worked with so many gorgeous souls over the years who are doing beautiful, highly original, important work in the world, who are stuck in the same old story: "If I talk about my work, it's bragging. I'm making it about me."

NO.

Please, hear this reframe, and let it into your heart:

When you don't share your work, that's when you're making it about you.

Your fear of taking up space, your fear of being judged, your fear of getting it wrong. All of which are very human, very understandable fears. And all of which are, unequivocally, about you.

Your absence and silence keeps people who need it from learning about or being moved by what you're doing, seeing, trying, wondering.

We have a whole new world order to birth here, folks. We can't do it by hoarding and hunkering down in silos. We gotta get that shit out in the open.

Talking about our work matters.

Pictured: My daughter adding to a wall of fan art at an event in NYC last month for fans of Glitch Productions. If fans thought it was “braggy” or embarrassing or gauche to share their theories, fan fic, or art online, I know one 14-year-old whose life would be a whole lot lonelier.